The Journey of Therapy Is a Journey of Becoming: You Don’t Have to Know It All—You Just Have to Keep Becoming

When we choose to become therapists, we don’t just sign up to help others on their journey—we step into one of our own.

Therapy, both the giving and the receiving of it, is not a destination. It’s a process. It’s not about having all the answers. It’s about learning how to live into the questions. And for every therapist—whether fresh out of training or decades into the work—this journey of becoming is still unfolding.

You Are Enough, Even as You’re Still Becoming

The pressure to “know it all” can weigh heavily, especially in a field that often carries a quiet expectation of certainty and expertise. But the truth is: expertise doesn’t mean perfection. It doesn’t mean never fumbling for the right word, or always knowing exactly what to say. It means showing up with presence, curiosity, and a willingness to grow.

You are allowed to not know yet.

You are allowed to evolve.

And your becoming is not a detour—it’s the work.

Therapy Is Not Just What We Do—It’s Who We Are Becoming

Every session we hold is also a mirror. As our clients step into vulnerability, so do we. As they learn to sit with discomfort, so must we. We grow alongside them, often in unseen but profound ways.

New therapists, hear this: you don’t have to be fully formed to begin. In fact, no therapist is ever “fully formed.” You will grow through the work. You will find your voice as you use it. And seasoned therapists—don’t forget that you are still allowed to become. Growth isn’t just for the early years. The seasoned therapist who stays curious, who questions and redefines, who lets the work shape them, is just as much on the path of becoming.

The Gift of Not Knowing

It’s tempting to think we’ll arrive someday—at a point where we finally feel like we’ve made it. But in this work, “arrival” is often an illusion. The best therapists are the ones who remain students. Who learn from every client. Who stay open to what they haven’t yet considered.

There is power in not knowing. There is freedom in releasing the myth that we must already be whole to help others move toward wholeness. In fact, our willingness to remain open, real, and human is what makes us trustworthy.

Becoming Is Brave

To be a therapist is to be in constant conversation with yourself. Who am I in this moment? What am I learning about being human? What am I still unlearning? This internal dialogue is not a distraction from the work—it is the work.

Let yourself be in process. Let yourself be shaped by the moments in the room, the questions that linger after a session, the quiet transformations happening inside you as you accompany others through theirs.

You don’t have to know it all.

You just have to keep becoming.